12 Ways you irritate your colleagues on purpose!

 


Yes we all do that and know it well also. Let us check what all we are doing in a most abusive manner knowingly or may be unknowingly.

1- Not sharing good food with colleagues. They can smell and crave for it.

2- Flirting with married males/females on cheap purposes. Whole office knows what is going on and your all family reputation goes in mud in one go.

3- Discussing about their kids problems in front of childless colleagues.

4- Planning personal outings in high tones with few colleagues in front of other colleagues.

5- Parking vehicles in others designated parkings without taking their permissions.

6- Taking office stationary to home.(Nobody is blind, they know what you doing, ok?)Same with printing own stuff on office printer.

7- Asking a person, distributing something good, to give you extra for you family.

8- To ask lift/car pooling directly without considering their own schedule.

9- Calling colleagues on holidays to discuss office matters for long minutes.

10- Asking colleagues direct questions about their private/personal life in a decent manner and later on spreading it to widest level possible in hush hush mode.Now a days HR knows well and degrades such employees continuously.

11- Wearing dirty shoes and stinky/smelly clothes to office regularly.

12- Eating raw onions or garic based foods and not using mouth fresheners afterwards. 

The grand legacy of Sir Ganga Ram.

 

He is Rai Bahadur Sir Ganga Ram. He did so much for India and Pakistan that when Pakistan government was approached by a foreign TV channel to make a documentary on his noble works and designed architectural achievements, Pakistan officials said they have only 1600 works in written and they are not able to make a proper list how much land he donated or made the buildings.

 

The TV channel said they will revert after a month. Pakistan government official replied “in a year please if possible, as we need to count the cities he donated for or made the establishments”.

 

These kind of people never counted them as HINDU living in Pakistan. These people were Earthians who worked for humanity as their social responsibilities.

 

Hats off to Sir Ganga Ram. If you are an Indian you must have heard of him or the hospital named after him. Sir Ganga Ram Hospital, New Delhi.

5 Reputation points to guide your kids about.

Example 1-

Last year I had a student who was visiting my home for Hindi & English subject tuitions. He was such a pain in my mind. Highly disturbing, mocking and abusive natured. His parents were of different categories too. Father too damn polite and his mother was like “not my son’s fault”. All relatives, neighbors, shop keepers, teachers, principal, bus-mates and classmates were after her son’s life according to her as she told me several times. Despite of heavy fees his parents were ready to pay I refused to take him as a student after few days. No it was not kid’s behavior it was his continuous abusing on own parents. In front of me and over phone.

Example 2-

My kiddos bus mate boy again a single child had a super confusing mother. She used to stand on bus stand to fight the bus conductor and driver continuously for giving extra space to his beloved son who used to carry two school bags every day for some weird reasons. If some kiddo visits their home he was forced to play according to the annoying rules of this bus mate boy. And his mother was always in complaining mode that somehow nobody likes his son and whole world is jealous because her son is getting great marks. Kid was highly abusive and mother as well.

We are going to discuss further in this article that where is the basic problem lies and how to explain ourselves that how can our kids can be more responsible and happy heart in the life?

1- Parental reputation – Let your kid/kids be worry about how his/their parents(you n your spouse) are going to feel about him/them? Anything bad they say or do shall not be ignored. Do not give them idea that you do not need explanation at all. Stop talking for a while instead of feeling happy, joyful, joking or even punishing them harshly. Just stop talking for a while. Let them take first step towards using their own mind that their reputation with you is affected by doing that kind of bad behavior. Keep explaining them that you will not lie in front of others for them.

2- Social reputation – Since early childhood we need to give ideas to our kids that they need to share, gel up and not to hold useless grudges with people around in or outside blood relations. Their table manners, talking manners or discussing arguments is parents responsibility. Strangers walking in the road are not going to teach our kids about this. We need to tell them that world is not their own property. We need to share it with others and sharing things, emotions and good behavior-will bring them good reputation as well as they are going to be less stressed too.

3- Scholastic/ Educational reputation – Gun violence in the school or misbehave with school administration/classmates is totally out of control and very common now a days. We the parents are responsible for this nobody else. We have no time for explaining kids that well behaved kids are always welcomed by teachers to discuss things in between. The moment we backbite about other kids, parents or teachers/management our kids start bullying others in the school too.More ignorant you are to not to explain to your kids about a teacher’s hard working life or school cleaners tough job more they are going to create problems for all in the school with less marks in their report card. Let them be quite and eager to learn kind of kid rather than being more chaotic for the school.

4- Financial reputation – Give budget, discuss their savings and explain about hardships of earning money. I am rich and you can buy Earth is the worst thing to tell them as well as we can not buy as we are chopping our stomach to buy house also bad thing to tell kids. Let them enjoy saving money and learn about being in control of over expenditures. Buying each thing on demand is very harmful too. Set few goals and help them in achieving them too. Let them earn that thing from you. My co-sister in law buy things when she returns from the parent – teachers meeting without having any single complaint.

5- Diplomatically correct reputation – The moment we tell our kid “you the best and above all”, we are doing a very wrong cord of their heart n mind. Trust me. Let them know very well before you submit them to an institution of knowledge or even a simple neighborhood playground that they are not alone on this Earth. They are all humans from this Earth. They need to mingle with others in good way without trying to rule others. Kids shall know that others have their feelings and rejections too.

The moment we abuse teachers, neighbors, classmates, friends, relatives and know ones, our kids start learning fast that they can abuse others, backbite about known ones and can complain for useless things to get loads of attention immediately. They learn their first social behavior from us the parents.

Explaining kids about being diplomatic to compromise and being agreed to small issues can save lot of time, stress and depression later. Tell them agreeing to others little demands can get them good reputation of a good kid. It works when any big conflict is there people will be choosing him/her as a leader because he/her gels up with other demands easily and is a good listener too.

We are the first mentor for our kids. Isn’t it? So let us not blame if our kid is giving us depression or stress. It is us who are basically responsible for their behavior outside the world.

Let them go because you are precious!

सिर्फ वही लोग जिंदगी में सफल होते हैं जो किसी के आगे गिड़गड़ाते नहीं हैं की रुक जाओ, जो नकारात्मक सोच रखने वाले लालची लोगो के आगे घुटने नहीं टेकते हैं. जो भी आपको दुत्कारता है उसे जाने दें, उसका पीछा न करें बल्कि जो स्थान वो आपकी जिंदगी खाली कर रहा है उसे अपनी दिल की खुशिओं से भर दें.

मेरे पति को उनके रिश्तेदारों ने यह बात समझाई की अपनी पत्नी से ज्यादा बात मत किया करो. उन्होंने मुझे अकेला छोड़ दिया और मैंने उस अकेलेपन में खूब लिखा, नए नए मित्र बनाये और कई किताबें पढ़ी. कितना बड़ा फायदा हुआ मेरा की मैंने खुद की एक किताब लिख डाली. सोचो कितना मुश्किल होता है एक किताब का छपना. पर मैंने कर दिखाया. क्यूंकि दिन रात जो पति गालियां देता रहता था उसने बात ही करना छोड़ दिया था. तो अचानक इतनी मानसिक शान्ति मिली की सृजनता उपजने लगी. नए विचार आने लगे. तो उपरवाले को धन्यवाद दो की तुमको कोई अकेला छोड़ के जाने को तैयार है. तुमहेतुम्हारा अपना समय मिलेगा और तुम जिंदगी में फिर कुछ कर दिखाने को अपने बूते पे अकेले खड़े हो.

जब लोग धोखा देते हैं तो वो उपरवाले का इशारा होता है की देखो ये भरोसे के लायक नहीं है. तो उस इसबारे को समझो और रोना बंद कर दो. जो एक बार तुम्हारे साथ बदतमीज़ी करे उसके साथ दोबारा समय बर्बाद मत करो. वो नहीं तुम्हारा खुद का समय कीमती है. तुम्हारा खुद का व्यक्तित्व ज्यादा मायने रखता है. तो आगे बढ़ो और कहो “जाओ” और दिल दिमाग के सारे दरवाज़े हर उस इंसान के लिए बंद कर दो जो कहे की मुझसे बात मत करो”. आगे बढ़ो और जिंदगी में कुछ कर दिखाओ. अपनी खुशियों के लिए जीना सीखो क्यूंकि वही ज्यादा कीमती और महत्वपूर्ण है.

I will always remain your Mummy not a friend! 

10

परसों स्कूल की पेरेंट्स टीचर मीटिंग मे बात स्कूल बस ड्राइवर के साथ एक बच्चे द्वारा किये दुर्वयवहार की हो रही थी. बच्चे के पिता ने बहुत तेज़ आवाज़ मे उल्टा ड्राइवर को ही डांट दिया की वो बच्चों के साथ दोस्त की तरह व्यवहार किया करे और वो खुद भी इस ही करते हैं ताकि बच्चे खुश रहे. मेरे बेटे ने मुझसे घर आके कहा की क्या ऐसा होता है? अगर ऐसा होता है तो मैं उसके साथ दोस्तों की तरह व्यहवहार क्यों नहीं करती? मैंने हँसके उसको कहा , मैं मम्मी की तरह समझाती हूँ तभी तो तुम्हारी ऐसी शिकायतें नहीं आतीं हैं.अगर तुम स्कूल बस ड्राइवर को दोस्त समझके चलती बस मे हंसी मजाक करोगे तो कितने ही लोगो की जान खतरे मे रहेगी? मेरा बेटा मुस्कुरा दिया.

मैं दोस्त कैसे हो जाउंगी? मैंने तो अपने बच्चों को जन्म दिया है. मैं उनसे बड़ी हूँ, उनकी देखभाल की है और उनके हर कदम को एक एक करके आगे चलते देखा है. दोस्त तो हम उम्र होते हैं, खट्टे मीठे होते हैं, नादान होते हैं और हर पल के साथी होते हैं. पर मम्मी की तरह घर पे बैठ बच्चों के स्कूल से लौटने का इंतज़ार थोड़ी न करते हैं?

अगर मैं आज दोस्त बन के उनकी छोटी छोटी गलतियों को नजरअंदाज करके उनके साथ हंसती बोलती रहूंगी तो मेरी बेटी को कौन सिखाएगा की फ्रॉक नीचे करके बैठना चाहिए या फिर ये की कोई भरी दोपहरी मे घर मे सामान की डिलीवरी देने आये तो फ़ौरन दरवाजा न खोलके पहले चेक करना चाहिए.मेरा बेटा अभी कुछ दिनों पहले फेसबुक पे अपने दोस्तों से बातें कर रहा था और मैंने उसकी क्लासमेट का फोटो देखा. सारे बच्चे उसके मजाक उड़ा रहे थे पर मैंने अपने बेटे को समझाया की इस तरह का फोटो अगर तुम्हारी बहन पोस्ट करेगी तो तुमको कैसा लगेगा?

दिक्कत बच्चों का दोस्त बनने मे नहीं है, दिक्कत इस बात मे है की हम दोस्त बनके माता पिता बनना भूल गए हैं. एक उम्र होती है जब बच्चे भटकने लगते हैं और माता पिता दोस्त बनके दूर खड़े हो जाते हैं. ये काफी बुरा दौर होता है और ख़ास कर उन बच्चों के लिए जिनके पास कामकाजी माता पिता का कमाया बेहिसाब पैसा होता है, रोज़ नए दोस्त होते हैं पर अच्छी बुरी बात समझाने वाला कोई नहीं होता.

हम माता पिता जो बात सख्ती से, प्यार से और नियम से बच्चों को बड़े होने तक सिखा सकते हैं वो दुनिया का कोई स्कूल या दोस्त नहीं सिखा सकता.इसीलिए हमारा हमेशा माता पिता होना ज्यादा जरुरी है क्योंकि हमारा अनुभव हर कदम पे हमारे बच्चों के लिए जरुरी होता है. जिंदगी मे मौजमस्ती करने के लिए हमउम्र दोस्त तो हर कदम पे मिलेंगे पर सच्चा अनुभव और दिल से उनका हमेशा भला चाहने वाले माता पिता हमेशा साथ रहेंगे तो उनकी जिंदगी और आसान हो जाती है.

इसीलिए तो मेरा बेटा भी कहता है मुझसे की मम्मी मुझको स्कूल मे कोई भी परेशानी होती है तो मैं घबराता नहीं हूँ क्योंकि आप तो घर पे उस बात को सॉल्व करने मे हेल्प कर ही दोगी, दोस्त तो और परेशान कर देते हैं. घर से बाहर लड़कियों के साथ कैसा बर्ताव करना है, स्कूल बस ड्राइवर को आदर देना हो या फिर स्कूल टीचर्स का कहा मानना हो हर बात मेरा बेटा अच्छे से जानता है. मैंने माँ बनके सिखाया है उसको. मेरी बेटी को पता है की हर स्कूल टीचर पहले सुबह उठके अपने घर का काम निबटाती है और फिर स्कूल आके इतने सारे बच्चों को संभालती है इसीलिए उनको तंग नहीं करना चाहिए.

बच्चे बड़े होते हैं,उनके अंदर कितने ही शारीरिक और मानसिक बदलाव होते हैं पर मैंने देखा है की कितने ही माता पिता ये कहके ध्यान नहीं देते की आजकल तो गूगल पे कितनी कुछ ज्ञान की बातें बच्चे खुद ही पढ़ लेते हैं. सही कहते हैं पर क्या आपका बच्चा उनको सही मायने मे सीख पाता है?क्या उसका मासूम मन जिंदगी की बड़ी समस्याओं को झेलने मे सफल होने लायक तैयार हो पाता है?

इसीलिए मैं अपने बच्चों को दोस्त बनके कुछ नहीं सीखना या फिर सिखाना चाहती हूँ . मैं तो अधिकार से और पूरे सच्चे दिल से उनको जिंदगी भर यही बताती रहूंगी की क्या गलत है और क्या सही. मुझे पता है की अगर मैं दोस्त बन के उनसे दूर हो गयी तो फिर उनको गलत बातें सिखाने के लिए पूरी दुनिया मे बहुत लोग हैं जिनको मैं मौका नहीं देना चाहती.

आज मेरी डांट फटकार शायद मेरे दोनों बच्चों को बुरी लगे पर एक दिन वो इस बात की कदर करेंगे पर कम से कम मुझको भला बुरा तो नहीं कहेंगे की दोस्त बनके मैंने उनको अकेले भटकने के लिए छोड़ दिया या फिर उनकी बुरी बातों पे उनको समझाया क्यों नहीं. वो अभी छोटे हैं पर मैं तो बड़ी हूँ और उनकी दोस्त नहीं मम्मी हूँ. है न?

10 Things Idli teach us.


Idli is South Indian steamed rice dumpling which is made from a mix of rice and lentils along with little addition of salt, fenugreek seeds and boiled rice too. It is considered as one of the most health beneficial food on Earth.

Our food habits teaches us a lot if followed by ancient food making practices so is Idli which teaches us few basics of life like ~
1- Be simple.Less clutter less problems in life to face.
2- Be filling.Do your job by full heart like Idli fills tummy always.
3- Be light. Don’t carry extra baggage of useless emotions. Just keep your mind light and stress free.
4- Be healthy. Follow your health routine.Don’t take risks for your life.
5- More steamed more good. Keep pushing out the negatives out of your mind by following a healthy n happy life.
6- Don’t demand much efforts from others. Keep your requirements from life very simple. 
7- Be open to follow in good steps just like Idli.It can go very well with anything i.e. sugar, Nutella, sambhar, chutneys, ghee or poddi powders.Isnt it?
8- Be fresh. Always try to be fresh in the morning and evening so that people around can feel the energy of your presence just like fresh idlis make happy any one.
9- Be your own mould. Develop your own personality.Keep learning to reach new horizons in careers.
10- Be adaptive. Like people make idlis in several form like fried idlies or ghee dipped or vegetable idlis or rava idlis.Be adaptive to new thoughts. 
Be always happy like a person who is satisfied and happy after having fresh steaming hot idlis. 

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Five magical spices blends from the Indian kitchens. 

Basically these blends I am going to talk about are, very ancient but yes now a days when cooking is quite popular on food blogs I feel that there is no harm in sharing what we learned in our own kitchen after spending so many years.I was walking in the morning on road and felt that there are few blends which makes my cooking more magical.So thought of sharing here too.

1- Bihar blend – It consists whole dry coriander,whole dry red chilies and garlic.You need to soak 1 cup of each together for 2-3 hours in lukewarm water and than grind it well with half cup normal water.Now mix in some salt and turmeric powder too and use it as marination for chicken, fish or potatoes and frill/fry/deep fry/roast them or use it in gravies by frying in little oil to make them heavenly.I use it some times in making kadhis even. Lot many times I have fried this blend into mustard oil with salt to fry boiled potatoes chunks to get great snack too.Or you can rub this blend in blanched cauliflower or shredded cabbage pcs to grill for a great snack too. Just experiment with it a lot.You will be happy to find the amazing results with garlic flavor. Once I made pizza base with this and got too many praises of desi pizza taste.

2- Hariyali blend – This is one of the most loved blend for me as it works very well with tikkas, biryanis and raitas(flavored curds). This contains fresh green mint, fresh green coriander and green chillies. Trust me it works great if you experiment with it little by little. It creates last minute magic in fried boiled potatoes, salads or curds. You can try it mixing in briyanis too.But if people around like spicy food than only try it. But yes if you blend it with cream, salt and garlic you can get amazing fish tikka, chicken tikka or paneer tikkas. Yes we are talking about those real spicy green chilies not capsicum or tasteless green chilies. Please don’t add those.

3- Shahi blend – I love the aroma of this blend so much that I never make any paneer dish without it. Paneer lababdar becomes so good with it and if it is added to simple dals or curries or biryanis they become royal with its flavor. It consists cloves, green cardamom and mace. While making suji(semolina) halwa sometimes I add a pinch of this in desi ghee prior to suji(semolina) frying and it becomes so fragrant that very moment. Recently I made some spiced almonds and I tried this blend in those too.Results were so amazing and satsfying.But yes basically I use it for pulaos, paneers and baking a lot.A pinch of this blend makes cookies or cakes much fragrant. Lot many times for a flavour change I add them in rice pudding (chawal ki kheer) too while boiling the milk. But keep a strong control over using them as these spices are very warm to use together.


4- Dil pasand blend – It is a quick mix on the spot of rose water, saffron and cinnamon powder which makes your pulaos, puddings, sweets and various mutton dishes so dreamy that I can bet if a great cook know how to use them perfectly in proportions he can do wonders in kitchen. They all work great together. Mix them and sprinkle over biryani while closing the lid or add them in dash while giving last stir to rice puddings or cake batter. Th is work wonders in carrot cake too.Just try it some time in tarts or cheesecakes or white rasgullas batter.You will love it.I have tried this blend in making jalebis and gulabjamuns too.Works very well by giving them great aroma.

5- Dhaba blend – This is a mix of black cardamom, star anise and nutmeg. Can make your palak paneer amazing, jaw dropping kind of choley or chicken curry like true dhaba style. If you really need a great chicken curry than marinate chicken pieces with Bihar blend (mentioned above, fry them and add this one while making gravy and check the taste. It rocks. It is actually one of the great blend if you are not using onions in a dish.Makes them amazingly tasty and aromatic. 


* Green cardamom and black cardamom I grind with covers on in good grinder into finest powder. I dont throw their covers(chilka)

Keep experimenting.Happy cooking!

12 Points to learn before joining a birthday party.


When you attend a party specially little kids birthday party as family either you create mess with others for the host or you behave good and extend a happy helping hand to organize and celebrate the moment. Isn’t it.Why but all are not like that?Why people get drunk at late night parties even though they are with families?

I hope we can move a step forward to learn few things before attending party next time! We can teach basic things to our kids so that lot many hassles for the party host parents can be less hectic.
1- Please do not waste food. Take in plate half of what you think you can eat. Now a days everything comes very expensive. If food is pre-served and packed than have it in sharing basis than open other plate.
2- Avoid creating mess by taking less drinks in glasses.Throw the glasses in the garbage bin only.
3- Do not shout, argue or get over excited.Just keep calm for the first half an hour to keep the party host calm too.
4- If you or your kid has to perform than rehearsal it at home. Do not pressurize your kid to perform all of the sudden.May be he or she is not mentally prepared.I really feel bad myself when I see parents try to drag or shout at their kid to do the thing all of sudden.
5- If the cake is big or small, whatever please control yourself from indulging too much or asking for several helpings.May be your party host is saving it for some late comers or to distribute to few others.
6- Balloons, confetti or caps. Do not be greedy to collect a lot. may be lot many people are watching you silently doing this.
7- Do not open return gifts at host place. Be patience and wait for reaching back home.
8- Do not stay back long by chatting. Try to move out first to show others a way as sign.
9- Do not pressurize the host to start the dinner or lunch as soon as possible. If they are delaying it too much than only gently remind them.Lot many times they get confused and things get delayed.
10- After coming back to home send a thank you note with appreciation of their efforts. It helps and boost the moods of tired hosts.
11- If you see host is in mess or confusion. Get up and start working with them to control the things.Lot many times over excited kids create so much confusions.So first calm down the kids with small game or performance.
12- If you are having plans to take some food to home for some family member than carry your own small plastic containers.
Happy partying!